In August 2018 we decided to buy what would become a self-built campervan, and this sparked a whole host of changes for us. With so many house moves over the years, we had already become serial de-clutterers. But with van life on the horizon, we needed to take the de-cluttering to a whole new level.
Most people (me included) recognise only too well when we are in a state of anger, despair, sadness and so on …the so-called ‘negative states.’ What if we paid as much time consciously recognising when we are in a state of joy in the present?
What is the inner shadow?
“It contains all the parts of ourselves that we have tried to hide or deny, the parts we believe are not acceptable to our family, friends, and, most importantly, ourselves. It is made up of everything that annoys, horrifies, or disgusts us about other people or about ourselves.
“I have spent much of my adult life saying Yes when I wanted to say No, and saying No when I wanted to say Yes. I am moving towards a new paradigm - of saying No when I want to say No, and saying Yes when I want to say Yes.”
If you can be with the pleasant without chasing after it, with the unpleasant without resisting it, and with the neutral without ignoring it – that is an incredible freedom. (Rick Hanson) I dislike being uncomfortable. I like routine. I like stability. I like when things don’t change too much. I like security.
It means: freedom and flexibility to feel the earth under my feet, not foam or padding or arch supports (which being barefoot, and wearing barefoot shoes gives me). Freedom to express ourselves through our